I wrote this in November 2016 after I decided to fully focus on PopCom (then Solutions Vending) and I was pitching to investors to raise seed funding to start developing the software. I found this in the notes section of my phone and was inspired to share. So much has changed since then, I have now raised $2.5M+ but this reminds me that it was my tenacity and resilience that got me this far.
I respect your no, but it won’t stop me. It actually fuels me, it excites me because I say yes, I invest in me. I put everything I have into this.
I wake up every day and say ‘yes’ to my dreams and goals. It’s the absolute hardest thing I’ve ever done but if I don’t say yes every single day then the yes I am looking for from someone else will never come.
Someone told me “…the helping hand you seek is at the end of your wrist”.
I am helping myself. I have been preparing for years for this.
My network is amazing. I am proudly one degree of separation between some of the most powerful and influential people in business, politics, sports, entertainment, and venture capital. I know many people who could make a phone call or cut a check and change my life and my business in an instant. I have close relationships with people who have the wealth and influence to make things happen for me. But I never ask, because I want to earn it. I have studied successful people and nothing was ever handed to them. It just doesn’t work that way. You have to be tenacious and relentless, it’s like a fraternity of people who ‘made it’ who had to get their ass kicked and work really hard to get there. Of course my network is readily available for advice, connections, and to be a sounding board, but I don’t ask for handouts. I build mutually beneficial relationships that are based on how can we help each other and not how can they help me.
Even as a child ‘no’ always meant ‘not right now’ — I just don’t accept it or internalize it as a finality. Sometimes I determine a ‘no’ is ultimately for the best and I don’t further pursue a ‘yes’ however I never feel that no is the end, unless I want it to be.
I don’t feel that people owe me anything, I don’t share the sense of entitlement that many people carry around and I never expected things to be easy. Shit is really really hard — I can easily have the ‘best day ever’ and the ‘worst day ever’ in the same exact day.
I won’t beg you to believe in me, to care about what I’m doing or to share my passions. It’s OK if you don’t want to put your money into my company, it’s OK if I wasn’t selected for your accelerator program, or if you are “going another route”. I hear you… “it’s too early”, “the market isn’t big enough”, you “don’t invest in solo founders” (that look like me), “let’s stay in touch”, OK. Or even better, being completely ghosted by an investor…honestly that’s happened to me several times, investors are fickle, I don’t take it personally. There is only one rule…I will NOT lose.